Adopted & Adored | 5-8 years | Open, foster | Hardback

This book is for children aged around five to eight years, who have been in foster care, and have an open adoption – your child has contact with their birth parents, whether that is occasional visits, phone calls or texts or just birthday messages.

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This is not just another story for talking about adoption – it is your family’s story.

You can edit all of the text so this book really is your child’s story. Look out for the highlighted text - make sure to change it so it reflects the names your child calls you. You add photos of you, your child and all the other important people in their life.

The key aim of this book is to create as much openness as possible with your child about their adoption. It encourages your child to ask you any questions they have and to also ask their birth parents.

It is written with the help of Susan Romer. Susan has been an adoption attorney for 25 years and is a recipient of the US Congressional “Angel in Adoption” award. As a lawyer she was known not only for her legal skills but also for her keen understanding of the emotional issues and pressures in an adoption.

$55.00 (USD)

An introduction by Susan Romer

Today, most children placed for adoption know they were adopted. From World War II and into the late 1970s most adoptions were closed. There was little information about the birth family available to the adoptive parents. Many families kept the adoption secret. The birth parents did not choose the family or get to see the child after placement. Things changed in the 80s. Adoption became more open. Many expectant parents choose the family, meet them before the birth and stay in contact. Adoption stopped being a family secret. 

Research has shown that birth parents as well as adoptees do better when they know each other. Children grow up knowing that they have a Mom that gave birth to them, their birth Mom (or tummy Mom), and a Mom and Dad / two Moms / two Dads / a Mom / a Dad that raises them. Birthparents can see that their child is loved and doing well with the adoptive parents they chose. This helps birth parents deal with their loss. 

In many adoption books there is minimal information about the birth parents. This story tries to capture information about birth parents in the life of an adoptee. Most importantly, the book encourages a child’s questions and concerns so that they can be discussed and answered. It is important that your child understands where they come from and that it is okay to talk about their birth parents.