Adopted & Adored | 0-4 years | Open, from birth | Softback

This book is for young children adopted from birth, and in an open adoption – your child has contact with their birth parents, whether that is occasional visits, phone calls or texts or just birthday messages.

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This is not just another story for talking about adoption – it is your family’s story.

You can edit all of the text so this book really is your child’s story. Look out for the highlighted text - make sure to change it so it reflects the names your child calls you. You add photos of you, your child and all the other important people in their life.

The purpose of this book is to support parents in talking to children about their adoption. It could help to explain their adoption for the first time or to facilitate a greater understanding about their adoption.

This book was written with the help of Susan Romer. Susan has been an adoption attorney for 25 years and is a recipient of the US Congressional “Angel in Adoption” award. As a lawyer she was known not only for her legal skills but also for her keen understanding of the emotional issues and pressures in an adoption.

$52.50 (USD)

An introduction by Susan Romer

Today, most children placed for adoption know they were adopted. Many have an open relationship with their birth parents. Openness varies with each family, depending on how much, or what type of contact they have. Sometimes there are visits, but often it means texts, letters, FaceTime or now, Zoom.

Research has shown that birth parents as well as adoptees do better when they know each other. Children grow up knowing that they have a Mom that gave birth to them - their birth Mom (or tummy Mom), and a Mom and Dad / two Moms / two Dads / a Mom / a Dad that raises them. 

The child knows their story, so no one “slips” and accidentally tells them they are adopted.  Not knowing one is adopted and finding this out from others can lead to anger and a lack of trust in their parents. Secrets are never healthy.

Reading this book with your child while they are very young helps you to get used to telling your child their story.

This book aims to encourage openness. Advice is, don’t wait for your child to ask questions. It’s very common for children not to ask questions, particularly about their birth parents. This can be because they don’t know to ask, or what to ask about, or because they don’t want to hurt their parents’ feelings. Each time you read this book with your child encourage them to ask you questions.